Every single year I see the same thing on social media- half the people I follow being excited about the day of love and others dreading it with every fiber in their body. What I’ve always thought was that you can enjoy this day whether you’re single or not. There’s no reason to be upset or to shut others down who are having a good time. Ladies, I know you feel like you need a man to make you happy. But guess what- ya don’t.
Step 1: Know that you are enough
YOU DON’T NEED NO MAN! All you need is God and yourself. Stop thinking that there is going to be someone to complete you, be your other half, and fulfill the emptiness you feel in your heart/life. Only God can fill that void. NO person on this earth can do that job for you, no matter how great, loving, and supportive they are. Get your mind right and start walking like you have everything you need, because you do.
Step 2: Realize that YOU are your first love
I read something once that said, “if I asked you to make a list of the things you love, how long would it take until you said ‘myself?’” That put a lot into perspective for me. What we believe as a society is that self-love is automatic narcism. When actually, it’s the necessary foundation of our enjoyment of life. If you don’t love yourself, it’s going to be tough to love anything. You’ll find everything wrong with yourself, everyone around you, your job, and the list goes on.
Do yourself a favor and do more acts of self-love, whatever that may look like for you. Whether that may be more “me-time” consisting of face masks and bubble baths, going to the gym, journaling, or binge watching your favorite show on Netflix. Go out to dinner and/or a movie alone. Dedicate some time for you and get comfortable with your own company. Treat yo'self.
Step 3: Think about the positive
There is so much more to Valentine’s Day than romantic love. It’s for all types of love. For your family, your friends, your coworkers, teammates, and so many more. Don’t limit your love and the amount of appreciation and gratefulness you can show to the people in your life. If you choose to be negative, you will miss out on SO much joy and fun. Allow your mind and heart to be more open.